you all had a very joyous New Year.If
you are like me you created a vision board, dream board, or goal journal, or at
least wrote down your resolutions and aspirations for this new year and now it
is time to make it happen
question is how do you bring your dreams from paper to reality? By applying the
Universal Law of Attraction,
is Law of Attraction (LOA):
Universal Law that states like attracts like. The energy you put out attracts
that energy or frequency or vibration back to you. You can never turn the Law
of Attraction off. You are always creating with every thought and feeling you
have. You shape your reality into exactly what you believe you deserve to be,
do, and have. Your level of consciousness or thoughts mixed with feelings or
emotions constitute a magnetic force, which the Universe responds to.
steps for using LOA and manifesting your dreams.
Know what you want and be clear about
it.Don’t be wishy-washy; how is the
universe supposed to know when you are serious or not. Be clear and specific.
Your subconscious mind is the broadcasting station to the Universe. So be
deliberate in what you think and focus on.
Ask the Universe for it. Write
it down, create a vision board or dream board. Having pictures help imprint it
into your subconscious mind. The more detailed your vision board, the
better. Start with "I am so happy
and grateful far..." and finish the sentence (or paragraph) telling the
Universe what it is that you want. Write it in the present tense as if you have
it right now. I like to start every day with writing my primary goals out
before I do anything.
3. Take Action. Plant your goals, care for
them and work steadily towards them every day. There is a rule in the world of
manifestation -as soon as you hear a
new good idea or think of something you want to do…you take immediate action.
Do something right away even if it is to write it down or make a phone call…
Show gratitude. Write it down and
say morning and evening everything you are grateful for. The more you are
grateful for, the more you will have
to be grateful for. And in doing this, you will attract more things into your
Relax. Now sit back relax and
think about your goals in a positive way. If we operate out of urgency or
desperation we are blocking the energy to attract them in. Breath in and clear
yourself. Allow fresh energy to come in.
6. Feel it, Act as if… it has already
happened. What does it feel like to be… a millionaire, drive your dream car,
lose weight… How would you feel when things happen? Obtain that feeling now and
bask in how good things are.
Straight to the point - I hit my rock bottom this
summer. My goal growing was to go to film school. I moved
here from out of state and spent 3 tough years focusing on school. I based my whole life around
it. My house is 2 miles from school, my job is one mile, my daughters school is
across the street. I worked hard and made my life convenient. And then Fall of
2013 approached... the main focus of the last 3 years of my life was coming to an end. I have a
great job… I love my job and they love me. They have worked extremely well with my school
schedule each semester for the past 3 years. But it isn’t a career end job. So
here I was graduating and feeling stuck or I should say the opposite… over
whelmed with too many options. I was now graduating and nothing was keeping me here in Hollywood; the possibilities seemed endless and daunting. And
everyone would ask what are going to do when you graduate? Well shit I have no idea,
I don’t even know what I WANT to do with my life, what my “passion” or
During this time I went through a
breakup that just left me devastated. I was confused hurt, lonely, feeling
betrayed. I spent a year with this man and had completely come to adore him. I
had structured my life out of helping him with his desires to go back to music
school and so on. I respected him and truly appreciated his friendship and company. I felt happy content and appreciated.
did anything and everything in the world to help him achieve those goals…and to
this day I know he knows still deep down inside.I thought things were good, I thought I was
happy. I had lost myself in my concept
of him. Then one day he just walked away, no looking back, no explanation. In fact
immediately after, had his new girl, or I should say not so new girl, all over
his social media sites. This man that would call me “love” every single day I
now had to watch him call “love” to this other girl. A man I had let so close
into my world and into my daughters world as well. She adored him and would ask
about when was coming over to play guitar with her.
How could someone that said they
cared, walk away so easily and effortlessly? I felt crushed, helpless, angry… I
had given the keys to MY happiness over to him and I had no idea. I was crying
all the time behind my sunglasses. I cried myself to sleep. I avoided all
movies involving intimacy and love. I rolled my eyes any time a man offered the
slightest compliment or “hit-on”. I secluded into a shell. I lost about 15 pounds
and started having other personal health issues. My neck/back injury flared up
again… as I now see was a way to hide myself, to protect myself from feeling
vulnerable. I lost all self esteem and felt ugly and unattractive. I started
focusing on my flaws. I would cry myself to sleep trying to hold it all in. My
heart just ached deep down to the center of my back. It was an emotional roller coaster. I would talk to myself
all the time… saying why the heck are you wasting a tear on a man that does not
even spend one second thought about you? That apparently didn't care or even respect your feelings.
Who was this girl? Who was this Arielle?
I was the girl people would always jokingly say, can your face do anything
else but smile? I was happy, carefree, positive, easy going… How did I get
here? Where along the way did I lose myself? I started asking myself when was
the last time you were truly happy. And I shocked myself realizing it was 4 or
5 years ago, Why was it that long ago? Sure I had fun times and good moments
along the way… but when was the last time I truly smiled ear to ear, or just
laughed for no apparent reason?
I began to question well what made
me happy then that I don’t have now. I have a better place, I completed film
school, I have nice clothes, a nice car… But why am I less happy? I realized I
had it, that this was enough. I didn’t want to feel this way ever again. I was
tired of crying of feeling hurt or betrayed. I’m a Gemini anyways, and since
when did I let a man get me down. I’m the social butterfly …bouncing around on
life. I choose who I want to let in my life… not the other way around.
Then I began to realize, if I feel
this shitty and am crying behind my sunglasses (and by the way during this time frame
not one person ever asked if I was ok) So I thought, if I feel this way how
many others were going about their day crying behind their shades that I didn’t
even notice?! So I decided then and there I was not going to feel this way anymore and
that I had the power to show others they didn’t have to either.
I had heard the sayings and
scriptures… Give and it shall be given into you. Or what you give comes back
tenfold. Like attract likes…. There was no lower bottom for me. I couldn’t feel
any worse. So I decided I am going to start loving and giving to the best of my
ability for purely selfish reasons… to feel good and be loved in return.
I started trying to do a Pay it Forward act at least one
time a day; leaving love notes all over town, dollar bills in random places... I started making my 15 seconds videos telling myself these
messages. Like “fake it till you make it.” And “happiness is a muscle that
needs to be practiced” and that “I choose happiness every morning.” And let me tell you my
life changed! There were days and weeks I was crying in bed saying please just
let me not feel this way any more, I just want to be happy. And would force myself to list off things in my life I was grateful for. Now I go to bed with the
biggest smile on my face saying wow I am so grateful and love going to bed with
this inward happiness.
I practiced happiness every single day! I forced that smile on
my face. I would say out loud, “I am Happy Healthy and Whole and there is no Hole
in my Soul.” I would say this over and over through out the day…most of the
time through my tears and shakey voice but still forcing a smile. And guess what,I no longer feel lonely or unloved. I don't need the presence of a man to make me feel complete. Every single
time his name would pop across my mind, and let me tell you it was ALL the
time. I would say out loud, “Bless you, I release you.” Because I firmly believe
in karma, that the energy you wish on others always comes back to you. So why
would I want to say f*#ck you… if I believed that I was bringing that negative
energy back in to my life. So bless you I release you and I wish you and your
“love” the best.
Sometimes a door is closing but we
are so afraid of change or letting go that not only do we not see it but we
fight it and resist it...only prolonging the inevitable and causing more harm and grief to us. So I started saying "thank you for walking away, you leaving was
actually the BEST thing that happened to me." I started forcing myself to see
and say the opposite. And you know what, him walking away was the best thing
that could have happened to me. I am so happy now. I would have been still
content and living a mediocre life had it not been for that moment. Many people would look at me or read this story and say oh you are damaged goods now, or good luck finding a man that wants to deal with those feelings. But, oh they couldn't be more wrong. I climb into my bed alone and happy with my own companionship something I would have never appreciated before. A relationship at this point in my life is not something i seek, but true love and friendship and adoration is something I will obtain for it is already mine.
Sometimes we are so broken, or
cracked open, to allow that much more love and light in. For in the breaking we
learn to love deeper and more intensely. Just think of how much more love we have when we are completely cracked open and have allowed the light to pour deeply into our souls. The Key to happiness is gratitude and
love. The more you are grateful for, the more you have to be grateful for. The
more love you pour out into the Universe the more love fills your life.And let me tell you, I am happy. I am smiling,
I am sexy, beautiful, energetic and contagious; the very essence of me is LOVE. There is no question of will I be afraid to love again. I am love, that is all I am capable of.
Through this transformation I found
my passion in life, what makes my soul come alive.I discovered a life for and about myself is
not a life at all. Through my creating of my morning 15 sec videos, I
discovered I truly feel happy when I am inspiring or helping others. I started
to feel and listen to other people’s pain and truly know I had felt that way
and to also know it is VERY possible to feel alive and happy again.
Paying it forward and doing random
acts of kindness are not events or even acts…they are a lifestyle. Love is our
natural normal state. We are love, so of course we are going to feel the best
and be the happiest when we are loving our self and others. Share a smile, a
nod, a polite hello… take a minute to show love to any one who may cross your
path through out the day.
So thank you to the man who has brought me to my highest level of love and appreciation and thank you to everyone who walked
this journey with me this summer. It has been five amazing months of
transformation. And I am so excited for 2014; to share my life journey with my
true soul mate, to create a hit reality show that will be aired on major
national television, to begin my career as a LOA life coach changing lives all
over the world, to run a blog that inspires and impacts all of our lives, and
to open a Haven center for teens and young adults from all over the world to
come live and experience and find true love, peace, passion, and happiness in
their own lives.
Be yourself today, tomorrow and the next day; love. And join me on clod 9, which is very large i might say ;)
You weren’t born to fit in; you
were born to be brilliant.Brilliant
comes from a French word meaning to shine. Everyone has the ability to shine,
sometimes we forget how to. And if we forget how to we never attract the right people
into our space. So this is about going on a journey of discovery.When we find our brilliance and we chose to
no longer play small or live down but to really live up to, all of a sudden
everyone that has been assigned to aid and help us be brilliant show up in our
space almost as if they were summoned to us. It is because of what we are
putting out into the universe that we literally start to find “our people,” the
ones that really really get us.
Our body is an electromagnetic force field
that attracts like-minded objects. So the energy that we all have, vibrates
from the inside out. So literally the moment someone steps into your space,
they can pick up on where you are energy wise.So when you tap into that brilliant it
factor that brilliant you, and you really begin to live your life in true
alignment (so alignment of head, heart and hands) you literally are releasing
your brilliance from the inside out.When you have the alignment of head, heart, and hands your feet will
follow and you will then begin to vibrate to the universe that “I am happy,
healthy, and whole and there is no hole in my soul because I know who I am.”
and you will begin to walk in that.
Then what happens is you have these
serendipitous moments where you bump into people.We can have these moments every day once we
get in the flow and expect it and don’t see it as strange and say, “this is how
I live my life.”
Steps to “Getting in the flow.”
1.Be Silent. Get quiet. Listen and mediate. Quiet
the chatter of the mind. Journal what is happening write now.
2.As you go throughout the day you have a
daydream, a flash of insight, capture that moment and bring it to speech. If it
wants to happen it has to be spoken. So literally speak out load. “I am happy,
healthy, and whole. My business is increasing, I am a lover and a giver.” Or
even when you are sleeping at night and have a dream, a dream is a sneak
preview of a coming attraction.
3.Who are the folks that I am associating with
that are causing me to move forward, or causing me to stay stuck, or move
backwards.People are like elevators
they move you up and move you down. At times you need to examine your
relationship portfolio to really understand in my life who are the assets and
who are the liabilities that enable me to be all that I can be or are there
relationships that perhaps you need to re-evaluate because they impact what you
produce and who you become.
You have to let it go in order to let it come. What is to
come? All of the things that you deserve, all the happiness, love, peace of
mind… those things can’t come to a crowded contaminated fearful mindset.Part of being brilliant and releasing your
brilliance is asking yourself do you want to be brilliant or do you want to stay
average? Average is safe. But brilliant is saying I am going to go for it.
There is nothing wrong with being comfortable, but the world will pass you by.
When you are congruent and whole within your soul, you start to attract into
your space all of the things that you deserve.
So brilliance is all about committing to ourselves. And it’s
a whole chain reaction that literally causes a domino effect. Things start
lining up for you all because of a decision to commit to you. When this happens
all of a sudden all of the relationships that I needed to make, happen
because I was at the right place at the right time. Don’t be cash rich, but
relationship poor.Say yes to yourself
and that releases your brilliance. Everyone has that it factor and the moment they release it they begin to attract others
to their space who will help them release their brilliance.
Go be Brilliant
Adapted from Release Your Brilliance by Simon T. Bailey
"There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up." -John Holmes
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Kindness and caring is also contagious. When we see someone do
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Give to those you love; give to those who love you, give to the
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